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Willpower, subjectivity, purpose, and selfishness.

Why do you plan very well every time, but the final completion amount is very small if you have a lot of plans on the task list?

Why do I silently think in my heart before going to bed at night, I must get up early tomorrow, but I have never been able to get up?

Why are the flags set up every time they are slapped in the face?

The first time we didn't complete it, we can tell ourselves that it's okay, we will complete these plans tomorrow, and the next day, we will tell ourselves again that it's okay, and tomorrow, again and again. Finally, we made a decision and never make plans again.

Every time I wake up by the alarm, I pick up my phone and check the time. Well, there is still time. Just sleep for a while. It’s 10 minutes, 10 minutes, and 10 minutes have passed. I have to get up. I am forced to wake up every day.

The flag set today will be hit tomorrow, but it ends up being one hundred and eight thousand miles away from what I thought.

All the above behaviors are actually manifestations of willpower in one aspect.

Everyone has different goals. Some will give up halfway, while others will stick to it. Why does this phenomenon occur? The reason is the problem of the strength of our own willpower. External power is definitely not the decisive reason.

On the road to achieving our goals, we will be particularly closely linked to the three words - willpower.

Everyone has willpower, but those with strong and weak willpower will increase the probability of success; those with weak willpower can also be improved through exercise, which can be changed.

So how can we exercise our willpower? Please browse the following points. (It will take up about 1-2 minutes for you)

First, execution ability and goals (decomposition)

Only when we want to do something voluntarily and spontaneously, we will feel the pleasure of the senses in this process and be more willing to perform the next step. But this sensory pleasure is based on: if I do it, I want to get rewards immediately. If I give, I want to see rewards.

However, in real life, this situation rarely occurs, such as learning, which is a process of quantitative change to qualitative change; some people have passed the CET-4 and CET-6, which is not just a factor of luck, but the most important thing is that they have their daily accumulation.

In summary, when we have a certain goal, break it down into small goals, and then allocate these small goals to the amount that needs to be completed every day or even every hour, write it on the task book. Every time we complete one, we will make a √ of the item in the task book. After all the plans are completed, we will reward our favorite things (such as eating, playing, etc.). If we can extend this satisfaction, it will be better.

This cycle repeats itself, forming a small cycle -> big cycle -> in this ecosystem constructed by oneself, it is like a fish in water -> delayed happiness, satisfaction -> good feedback -> super execution ability. (Note: how much tasks are completed every day should be closely linked to yourself)

Second, meditation (practice of concentration)

Execution and thinking are a pair of chopsticks that are interdependent.

Dr. David Rock once wrote for Psychology Today: There are findings that, no matter what task is completed, occasional shifts in attention will affect performance, and these occasional shifts in attention will inspire the central prefrontal lobe. The central prefrontal lobe is located in the prefrontal lobe, near the center of the forehead. When you think about yourself and others, this area becomes active. This area of ​​the brain also belongs to a network called "default settings". When you do nothing, the network is active. He concluded: "When you relax external attention, this default brain network will be activated, and your attention will be diverted to internal signals."

Meditation can make our minds sense spiritual transcendence, thereby achieving the effect of purifying consciousness.

An easy way to meditate:

Close your eyes, then relax, slowly focus on your breathing, breathe with your abdomen, feel the airflow from your nose to your chest, and then your abdomen. When you focus on your brain, you seem to be able to see the tip of your nose, only pay attention to the breathing itself. As long as your thoughts run, you will immediately catch it, run again, and catch it again. Repeat this for five minutes.

Third, self-deception

People with lack of ability draw wrong conclusions based on their own lack of consideration, but are unable to correctly recognize their own shortcomings and identify wrong behaviors. These lack of ability immerse themselves in the illusory advantages of self-creation, often overestimate their ability level, but cannot objectively evaluate the abilities of others.--Dak effect.

When we are forced to accept tasks issued by our superiors and are not within our ability, can we refuse? Of course not, we can only do it and silently tell ourselves, "I can, I can do it, I can do it."

When our "self-deception" is used in aspects that benefit us, it can be banned.

Fourth, thoughts

Since entering university, I have tried and learned a lot of things, but I have given up a lot of things in the middle of the journey. I have never given up. I should be writing!

But in the process of persisting in writing, it was not continuous. When I was a freshman, I opened my first book online and joined the group. In addition, I had a lot of freshman activities, so I often interrupted the updates. The author still remembers that my first book was about 30,000 words serialized and became a "eunuch". Then, I left the group and found a part-time job. I ran up and down to sell things every day. I practiced a "karma iron bone" with thicker skin and made a little money. When I had time, I went to the cinema to watch movies. During this period, I opened a headline account and wrote down my feelings for watching movies every time I watched a movie and experienced a different life.

Later, Toutiao account did not persist and was attracted by other things - video editing, learned something, but it was not qualitative. By chance, I logged in to Wukong Q&A and saw an answer from the author, and the number of readings reached 760,000, which gave me an inspiration. Later, I opened a book and published it at the starting point. This lasted for a little longer, but in the end, because of some other things, I was still a "eunuch".

After two years of repeated recurrence, this cycle has been broken out, thanks to some experience. A relative who is particularly close to me, was diagnosed with a heart defect in my 30s. Because the heart defect is about to expand to the left atrium, surgery must be performed as soon as possible (minimally invasive surgery is not possible).

During that period, I accompanied him throughout the process. During the five hours he had the operation, my grandmother and his wife were crying silently in the family waiting room, and my grandfather was silent outside. I still remember that during that period.

It was precisely after experiencing this kind of thing that I have thought of clearly. Some things I want to do will do, maybe, but when I want to do, I have no chance.

I have counted that in the past two years, I have written about more than 100,000 words. After thinking it through, I have opened another book. Whenever I want to break the update, I always think:

It's over like this? You have written so much, it's a pity to give up! Let's go tomorrow! If you don't want to write tomorrow, then give up!

In this way, I refused until tomorrow, tomorrow, and until the signing of the contract was successful, and there were also waves in the middle and there were times when I wanted to give up, but I also came through like this.

Don't be for others, just be responsible for yourself.

If there is a stumbling block and stumble, then we will lift our feet high next time! It will be over!

Fifth, what you get is obtained by luck is always returned in another way

If virtue is not matched with the position, there will be disasters; if virtue is weak and the position is noble, if wisdom is small and the plan is great, if strength is small and the responsibility is heavy, it will be less than enough.----"Book of Changes·Xici Xiao".

During the Tianqi period of the Ming Dynasty, there was a playboy Zhang Haogu, a big landlord from Linqingzhou, Shandong. He was a big illiterate person who ate, drank and had fun all day long. People called him a "dog young man". Once, he was obsessed with his official intentions and went to Beijing to break into the examination room of the Gongyuan for selecting talents. Due to the incompetence and corruption of the emperor and civil and military ministers, Zhang Haogu took advantage of the loopholes and actually made the title of the list and entered the Hanlin Academy. He accidentally regarded him as a pillar of the country and had a prosperous official career for a while. (Source from Baidu)

Are you envious? The author is envious, but I believe that luck is only temporary, it is an opportunity. If you seize it, you can certainly go to the next level, but after that, you must focus on consciously training your own professional skills, and use your strength to position for a long time!

Understanding a lot of truths is just to add icing on the cake to our lives. What determines whether you can live a good life is your choice and action.

Author: Mo Yun Luhuai

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The above is Chacha’s idea for a certain period of time. Let’s take a place here first, or wait until tomorrow before replacing it.

"What are you doing so much? Do your own thing well and don't be too curious, it will not be good for you." The shopkeeper scolded.

The guy touched his head and listened obediently to the shopkeeper's scolding.

Ye Mujin followed the shopkeeper's words and came to a street and saw a light green woman recruiting customers on the street.

She walked forward and came to the light green woman.

"Miss, can you please speak with a step?" Ye Mujin asked politely.

The woman looked at it first, then said impatiently: "Miss, this is not a place you can come. Let's leave quickly and don't delay my mother from attracting business."

Ye Mujin smiled and took a few silver dollars from the purse on her waist, put it in the woman's hand, and said, "Just ask the girl something, and I'll leave after I finish talking, and it won't take the girl too long."

The woman weighed the amount of the silver in her hand, as if she had changed immediately. She warmly pulled Ye Mujin aside and smiled like a flower, "Little girl, what do you know first, I, oh, no, I will definitely know everything."

Ye Mujin didn't have any other special expression, as if she had not seen the change of faces of the person in front of her.

She still smiled and said, "A round shopkeeper, let me come to you, he said you know what I want."

After hearing this, the smile on her face disappeared instantly. After that, she had no expression on her face, "Little girl, are you sure you want to go?"

The woman's sudden words made Ye Mujin confused.

But she couldn't ask directly, "Yes."

The woman heard the affirmative reply, and a trace of sympathy flashed in her eyes, "Little girl, are you sure?"

Ye Mujin still answered the same as before.

After hesitating for a moment, the woman spoke again, "Little girl, there is danger, not where you should go."

For the sake of money, she reminded the little girl in front of her.

And these money is only worth reminding her. If the little girl doesn't appreciate it, then forget it! Anyway, there are so many people going there, and it's not a short one.

It's a pity that this little girl is so young.

When Ye Mujin heard this, she knew that the woman had misunderstood her, but she could not explain the reason directly, so she could only say the same thing as the shopkeeper.

"Miss, I'm going to find my relatives, what's the danger?"

"Looking for relatives?" the woman spoke in confusion.

"Yes, the shopkeeper told me that as long as I come to you, I will know where my relative has moved." Ye Mujin looked innocent.

The woman was speechless, "Just for this?"

What did the little girl in front of her say that offend the fat man, who can really do it.

The fat man can’t just look at the little girl who looks good, but he just wants this little girl to accompany that immortal monster!

The woman thought of this and said, "Little girl, I advise you not to go. I have cleared all the families in our town. Which family are you looking for?"

The fat man could make up his mind to send such a delicate little girl to the old monster, but she refused to let him succeed.

"His surname is Lin, and his name is Xiaofan." At this moment, Ye Mujin thought of finding Lin Xiaofan in the side mission, which came in handy at this moment.

A complicated look flashed across the woman's face, and then the woman said, "You walk north along this road and walk to the end. It's the house of the person you are looking for."

The woman originally wanted to save the girl who was deceived by the fat man, but now she has changed her mind.

Ye Mujin didn't know what the woman in front of her thoughts, so she smiled slightly and thanked her sincerely: "Thank you."

After saying that, he followed the path the woman pointed out for her.

The woman stood there and looked at the distant back, and there was a hint of unbearable expression in her eyes.

"Chongniang is here, hurry up!" A woman dressed up and said to the person standing next to her.
Chapter completed!