Always live in dreams, you will fall and feel exhausted physically and mentally. But always live in reality, you will forget the meaning of life and become a walking corpse. Therefore, you must base yourself on reality, take care of your dreams, and then live with the flow.

Having dreams is nothing, anyone can have them. Just like, if a person does not have a dream, what is the difference between it and a salted fish? Well, if a person has a dream but does not work hard, what is the difference between it and a salted fish turning over or a salted fish?

Therefore, people not only need to have dreams, but also work hard to reflect their dreams into reality. That is what it means to be "salted fish to make life".

So, it’s still so, three words: work hard!

On the evening of April 4, 2017, Sister Xuejing and I started the computer together...

I have always been curious about why Sister Xue Jing’s left eye has a very obvious white thing, just like the cataracts seen on TV commercials.

I was not very familiar with her before, so I never dared to ask her. After all, this is an existence that is unwilling to say too much to others, just like a physiological defect.

However, after knowing her for more than half a year, I felt that she was a cheerful and optimistic aunt, so I dared to ask her that night.

I smiled but was a little worried: "Sister, I've always been curious about why your left eye...uh..."

She smiled naturally: "It looks like a cataract, right?"

I nodded slowly.

She began to recall: "That white spot has happened when I was a child. My mother said that one night when I was three or four years old, I had a very severe high fever. She took me to the only doctor in the village to see a doctor. The doctor was an uncle. He said I had a fever too much and had to go to the hospital in the town. However, in the middle of the night, the distance from the village to the town was far, and it was a mountain road. So, he suggested giving me penicillin, but it was a bit risky.

My mother thought about it and said that if she went to the hospital, her daughter might have been burned before she even arrived. So, my mother agreed to the doctor for the injection of penicillin.

After taking penicillin, the fever subsided, but the next day, I cried and told my mother that my eyes hurt. She took me to the doctor to see what was the result, and I forgot what I said.

Later, my left eye became a little white, and I had to get close to see things before I could see them."

I was curious: "Will penicillin affect the eyes?"

She smiled and said, "I don't know either. I was young at that time, so I didn't know anything."

I asked: "Why don't the doctor be responsible?"

She replied naturally: "The doctor said he would be responsible. After all, it was because of his fault. He took me to many hospitals, but he couldn't do it. My mother didn't blame him, let alone let him compensate him. After all, she understood what the situation was."

Well, the kindness of human nature. If you make mistakes, you will not escape. If you treat the wrongs, you will be tolerant and understand them. It is really good!

I kind of want to understand her growth process: "Then your left eye became like this when you were a child. If you go to school, will your classmates laugh at you?"

She smiled: "Smile, but what can I do? They laugh at them, I read my book."

I continued to wonder: "Then have you blamed the doctor for making your left eye doctor like this and making you laughed at by other children?"

She smiled: "No, I don't blame him. He treats our family very well. He will notify us immediately wherever there are discounts or anything else.

Later, when I was ten years old, a team of doctors who treated their eyes for free came to our village. The doctor said that I had signed up for me. I could go for treatment, and the surgery fee was not paid.

If I had gone to that treatment at that time, maybe my left eye would have been normal. But then, my mother and I were just quarreling and angry, so we didn’t go to the treatment.”

I asked: "Do you regret it?"

She still smiled naturally: "I don't regret it, I don't feel anything. Anyway, I'm used to this kind of left eye, and it has little impact on my life, so let this left eye accompany me."

It seems that she has had this good mentality since she was a child. At the same time, I admire her very much because she can naturally accept her imperfect self.

In fact, her appearance is that her left eye looks a bit like the "rolling eyes" in "Naruto". But so what? Those who understand her will think that her heart is the true beauty.

I began to continue to be curious about her relationship: "Then have any boys you liked before?"

She smiled and scratched her head: "I didn't seem to be there when I was a child. After I finished junior high school, I went out to Dongguan to go to the factory with my cousin. After entering the factory, a boy was very nice to me..."

Ouch! It seems that I have asked a little.

I continued to explore: "Then were you together at that time?"

She tilted her head and smiled: "What do you mean? It shouldn't be considered together."

I don't want to let go of any clue I want to know: "Then how did you meet and what happened to me that I didn't get together in the end?"

Suddenly I realized that I was so gossipy! However, after gossip, I didn’t tell anyone in the workshop, but chose to write it down like now. Because every communication, you can learn or understand something that is useful to you. Even if you really don’t get anything, it will not be in vain because you have thought about it.

She smiled: "At that time, we worked in the same workshop and packed clothes. I had never spoken to him, and I had never seen him face to face.

Later one day, my cousin suddenly said to me, look, is that man interested in you? He stares at you every day at work. I looked at him and he immediately bowed his head to work.

I said to my cousin in disbelief, "How is that?" You are thinking too much. My cousin just thought he was interested in me. Later, my cousin even asked him to have dinner with us, so that I could get to know him."

After a while, he and I became quite familiar with each other. He likes to sing and sings very well. He has also held his own small concert in the factory, which is quite famous.

My cousin asked him if he wanted to marry her cousin. However, he felt that he didn't want to get married so early. He had a dream in his heart and wanted to become famous for singing. Well, he was the kind of person who took the artistic route. He always felt that he was not on the same path as me.

Later, my cousin and his family had to work in Shenzhen, so I followed my cousin and his family to Shenzhen. We left secretly without saying a word on one night. I didn’t tell him that we didn’t have a cell phone yet, so we didn’t leave any contact information. After that, we never saw each other again.”

I looked into her eyes: "Then do you regret your original choice?"

She smiled and shook her head: "What are you going to regret? He and I were not the same person as us."

Well, her love has gone through this...

I continued to ask, "Then how did you know your current gentleman?"

She was a little calm: "At that time, my family and I had just arrived in Shenzhen, my family urged me to go back to my hometown for a blind date. Actually, I didn't want to go back, but the pressure from home was too great. Then go back to a blind date."

I smiled: "Then do you still remember the scene of the blind date?"

She also smiled: "I originally wanted to go back for a blind date, but my husband came to me by himself. He had always had a crush on me in the factory in Dongguan, but I didn't know. He originally planned to confess his love to me, but who knew that I left without saying a word that night, and he didn't know where I went.

So he asked my roommates and friends at that time, and learned the address of my hometown from them.

Just so happened that before my parents were about to find a blind date for me, he showed up in my yard with a gift.

My dad asked him curiously who he was, but he said he was here to get a job. Although it was a bit direct and a little stupid, my dad also asked him to sit in the house first.

I heard that he found my house when he asked everyone in the village where my home was. I had been in the room at that time and didn't know what was happening outside the door.

After my father talked to my mother, my mother went into the room and told me to go out to see him. After all, someone rarely comes to our house from a long and far-reaching province to come to our house to hire him. Even if he doesn't want to, he should meet him politely.

Since my mother said that, I would go out to see him. When I first met him, I felt average, not handsome, but it wasn't that bad.

When we were having dinner, my parents insisted that I sit next to him and have a meal. It seems that I was deliberately trying to match us.

My dad suggested that I marry him, and I would have to go on a blind date anyway. Now that I am ready, it will be delivered to my door automatically and I don’t even have to look for him. Moreover, he was able to find our home so intentionally, which means that he is still honest and worthy of love, so he can trust me to him.

That's it, I married my husband."

I felt that her husband was so tired: "Wow! Your husband is so strong that he can do this!"

She smiled.

I continued to explore: "Did you go out shopping together during holidays?"

She looked calm: "No, my husband and I rarely like to go out for a walk, and we stay at home during holidays."

I was puzzled: "What do you often do at home? Are you not bored?"

She looked calm: "Watch TV at home, play with your phone, or go to bed."

I was puzzled: "You don't have any shows?"

She looked calm: "No, sometimes we almost don't speak. We eat after cooking, and continue our own affairs after eating."

I can't believe: "Will you live a happy life like this?"

She looked calm: "Happy, as long as I see my ten-year-old son, I will be very happy! I married my husband at the age of nineteen and turned thirty-one this year. Fortunately, I have a son, otherwise I might not be happy."

What?! Only thirty-one years old?! Isn’t it just a few years older than me? I always thought she was at the level of an aunt, but she was actually a big sister. Well, okay, it turns out that she is not as beautiful as a person.

I was still puzzled: "This is how you and your husband have always come here?"

Her expression revealed some helplessness: "That's right, we often say nothing. I've tried him and haven't spoken a word for a month, and I haven't said a word."

Oh! Oh my god! This is simply an upgraded version of the Cold War!

I can't understand why a couple can have a cold war to this extent? From her words, I can't seem to hear her smile when she first said about love...

I think many people definitely can't stand such a long cold war, which is like living from relatives to passers-by with hatred.

After that, I didn't continue asking...

Because, I have asked about the pain in her marriage.

Of course, in her marriage, I am just a bystander. Only her own heart knows whether she is happy or painful. Maybe from the eyes of others, she is in pain. But if others see only one side, she may still be happy?

I don’t know, marriage is a very complicated topic.

It takes a long and long class to learn the topic of "marriage". Many people really want to take the "marriage" class, but when they are halfway through, they find it very profound and cannot understand many questions and do not know how to answer them. All kinds of emotions in their hearts are at work and do not know what to do.

At this time, when I looked at the people outside the window who didn’t need to take the “marriage” class, I began to envy. Just like when I was a child, I was in the classroom and when I was a child, I was having so much fun watching the students who were freely active outside the window having fun, I would also want to go to play freely after class.

Therefore, there will be many people who want to stop studying after class, but they have already paid the tuition, and the tuition cannot be refunded...

Some people will continue to study for the tuition fees they have paid, while others will stop classes directly without caring about the tuition fees they have paid, but the price is tuition fees. Tuition fees can be love, money, time, etc. paid.

However, some people are happily studying "marriage" in class from beginning to end. Moreover, they finally completed their studies, got good grades, and received good rewards. For example, many pairs of people who work together to get back and forth, and grow old together.

Whether a marriage is good or not depends mainly on how much you are willing to pay for the marriage, and whether the partner who is studying the topic of "marriage" with you is also willing to study hard with you.

There is no absolute, marriages in the world are beautiful and flawed. What determines your happiness will always be your own mentality.

Yesterday I saw a very meaningful sentence: Marriage is the grave of love; but without marriage, love will die without a place to bury.

One day later, I saw Sister Xuejing’s husband drive a tram to pick her up from get off work.

In fact, only you know whether you are happy or not. (To be continued)
Chapter completed!