Do you think you will be noticed by others?

Do you think you are a clown or a living treasure?

You think...

Well, this is not important, but it can be important.

Because being noticed by others is a happy thing. Of course, it is also easy to be a bad thing.

When others notice your strengths, you will be very happy. When others notice your weaknesses, you will easily develop a variety of unharmonious emotions. In other words, inner happiness is determined by others.

If you can, just care about your inner thoughts without being influenced by others, that is certainly good. However, to reach this state, your spiritual level must be very rich. People with spiritual wealth can decide the inner happiness of themselves and do not require the attention of outsiders. However, in today's materialized society, it is actually difficult to achieve spiritual wealth...

If the pace of life is too fast, it is easy to break the balance in your heart, so as to pursue unrealistic vanity but very consistent with the nature of this social nature. It is believed that vanity can prove that you are a good proof. For example, if someone follows or likes a short video, the author will be very happy! Hence, he finds motivation to update! The attention and the number of likes can make himself feel that he is actually very good. This can give people with inferiority, but it can easily give people with arrogant pride.

Well, this is the fantasy brought by vanity.

It seems to be very good, but the real good or bad should depend on one's own heart.

Some short video content is actually very speechless behavior in reality. However, some people who watch videos like to watch this speechless behavior to make them numb. When creators see these behaviors, they will even more aggressively shoot more speechless behaviors to attract people interested in these behaviors to pay attention to them. Therefore, they feel that they are still very good.

But in fact, do those creators really recognize those behaviors in their hearts? Do they really feel happy?

Or is it normal to attract traffic just to feel that even if you are rolling in the mud?

Of course, I don’t despise these behaviors, and I don’t have the right to despise them.

After all, life is not easy, who knows what his heart has experienced?

I just want to talk about whether it is good or bad when being noticed by others.

Some people will become better when they are paid attention, while others will go wrong or even lose themselves in order to be paid attention.

Being noticed is a double-edged sword. It can cut off the shackles of inferiority, or accidentally hurt yourself because of arrogance or face.

Mortals like me are easily injured by this double-edged sword...

Sometimes I am a Sagittarius with inferiority, and sometimes I am a proud Sagittarius.

When I feel inferior, if someone pays attention to my strengths, I will feel very warm and even feel powerful.

A few months ago, a new female colleague came to our office, named Xiao He. She was from 1997 and was not tall, like a little girl. But when I first interviewed her, I found that she had a lot of white hair and thought she might be thirty years old. But the information on her ID card showed that she was from 1997. Well, that was the little girl.

After Xiao He came in to work, I rarely called her full name.

Because, she called me "Xiao Liu"...

Good guy! So I followed her words.

Every time she asks me for advice and calls me "Xiao Liu", I will walk towards her and reply to her: "What's the matter? Sister!"

Then, she would stare at me with wide eyes, and I would look at her with a "kind" smile.

Of course, she would also call "Brother Wu" "Uncle", although Brother Wu also felt that she called him old and hoped that she would call him "Brother Wu". However, there was nothing wrong with her calling him "Uncle", after all, her age was there...

In contrast, the title of "Xiao Liu" is already very kind...

Well, I am five years older than him. When she calls me "Xiao Liu", it will naturally make me feel that she doesn't respect me. But thinking about it, it's not that important. Isn't it just a joke? Besides, calling me younger is not a bad thing, haha.

Not long after that, "Brother Wu" was transferred to Huizhou as the team leader, and Xiao He took over Wu Ge's position.

I also gradually got used to her calling me "Xiao Liu", but suddenly one day, she called me "Brother Long" for the first time! And since then, I have almost always called me "Brother Long".

It turned out that she thought I was reliable compared to Brother Wu, and I was a good person, so she called me "Brother Long". Of course, this was what I guessed by myself.

When I was in my senior year of high school, I didn’t like others to call me “Brother Long”. I always felt like I was calling the boss of the gang and was so uncomfortable. But now it’s different. Others call me “Brother Long”, and I feel quite comfortable…

It turns out that I am so fickle.

She called me "Brother Long" because of her respect. After all, she had never called Brother Wu "Brother Wu". It can be regarded as a recognition of my ability.

Because, she sometimes asks me questions, and if I don’t know, she will reply to me in surprise: “How is it possible? Brother Long, you are omnipotent in my mind!”

What else can I express besides laughing?

Well, she also said something that touched me...

For a while, I worked a lot of overtime and had a lot of work pressure. Even though I seemed calm on the surface, I was really depressed and depressed inside...

Sometimes when I get home, even my dear can't understand my inner discomfort...

Before leaving the office one afternoon, Xiao He happened to chat with everyone and said to everyone: "Do you know how much pressure Brother Long is and how hard it is? He has to do everything..."

That sentence hit my heart like lightning, and a feeling of sadness surged up...

Unexpectedly, she understood me...

At that moment, the feeling of being understood and recognized really warmed my heart.

Being moved is joy.

Thanks to her approval, it turns out that someone has noticed me.

What is being noticed here brings strength to me.

Although she resigned a few days ago and went home, at least, our life trajectory has had some connections and she has given me strength.

If you don't get noticed, you can sometimes hurt me.

Also a few days ago, I met Brother Zhiming, the squad leader who used to be in the forging department in other departments. I happily greeted him.

I thought he would still talk and laugh at me like before.

But, not, I overestimated myself.

I have changed from a general worker to a clerk, and from a squad leader to a technician. He disdained to be with me and did not want to look at me more. I seemed to have become a person he was tired of.

Yes, I greeted him three times in succession, but he ignored me and thought I was like air.

So, my heart was hurt a little...

It turns out that everything is a passing cloud. Even if I don’t wear tinted glasses to treat him, he will wear tinted glasses to treat me.

Perhaps, when I resigned, he and I were no longer people on the same channel. It did not refer to the level and pattern, but to the channel we get along with.

If you care too much about how others view yourself, you will easily be hurt.

So, I coaxed myself, forget it, and I will be like a passerby I have never known in the future. After all, the forging department in my heart has changed, and the memories have been broken.

Well, then, is it good to be noticed?

There is nothing good or bad, the key is how you view others' attention.

I have read a saying before: Don’t live so tiring, not so many people pay attention to you.

Well, I really thought so before, but, thinking about it, it doesn't seem to be the case either.

Perhaps, there are really many people paying attention to you about what you are doing, but you don’t know. Just like, people are doing it, God is watching. Or, if you want others to not know, don’t do it yourself.

In other words, what you do is seen by others.

Just like, a QC from another company came to our office before, and in fact he often came. However, once, he accidentally bumped into a glue cup and fell into the gap between the cabinet and the wall, which was a bit difficult to remove.

In fact, there were not many people in the office at that time, and everyone gathered to discuss things. No one noticed that he touched the water cup, but I was the only one.

I quietly followed him with my light to see if he would take out the glue cup.

Well, he tried hard to move the cabinet away, but the cabinet was big and heavy, so he couldn't move it away. He wanted to reach out, but his hands were not long enough.

After about three minutes of work, he really couldn't get it out, so he went out.

Well, he doesn't know if I'm paying attention to him.

After he left the house, I thought he would ignore it. If this is true, then he was just escaping and not making up for his faults.

But, not long after, he came back.

Well, he held a wire in his hand, probably asked the workshop squad leader to take it.

I still made it for several minutes, but finally took out the glue cup.

The moment he took out the glue cup, he breathed a sigh of relief and wiped the glue cup clean. Then, he walked out happily.

Well, he probably still doesn't know if I'm paying attention to him.

But no matter whether I pay attention or not, at least, he knew what he was doing. He knew that he had made a mistake accidentally, so he found a way to remedy it. This was because he paid attention to himself rather than others. Because when he touched the water cup and almost no one knew it. After all, the workshop machine sounded loudly and the glue cup fell very little.

Well, in fact, he could choose not to take the water cup up, if he thought no one knew. Of course, if he really made this choice, then when the owner of the water cup asked, I would become that terrible eyewitness.

Fortunately, he chose the choice that deserves his conscience and found a way to take the water cup. Although no one praised him, his inner happiness is the most important thing. After all, he made up for his mistakes in time and did not escape. Also, I saw it, so I will praise him here, even though he did not know, and would never know.

But the truest meaning is still the moment when he made up for his mistakes.

Similarly, go to a restaurant for dinner.

Some people will spit bones on the table casually when eating. In fact, there is no need to spit them on the lid of a disposable lunch box.

Of course, some people think it is normal for them to spit on the table after paying for meals. Well, yes.

But, I also noticed such people.

He vomited bones on the disposable lunch box's cover when he was eating, and after eating, he would cover the disposable lunch box so that the hotel owner could clean up.

Well, actually, he did not do this because someone was staring at him, almost no one paid attention to him, and I happened to notice him. So, there was no need for him to do this.
To be continued...