After a long while, Alice asked:

"Louis, will you blame me for my ignorance?"

"Of course not!" Louis gave a decisive answer while comforting:

"I can't do it, and neither can anyone else."

"You should have felt the love and kindness everyone has shown you these days."

"An'an and Manman's family are a kind and loving family."

"They are very willing to accept you and protect you."

"You are just a child, and you will always think about the wrong things and take the wrong path as you grow up. This is normal."

"What you need is guidance from adults. It doesn't mean that you have to blame or punish you if you do something wrong."

"This is not conducive to your absorbing experience and lessons, but will hinder your growth."

"Besides, Alice, don't look back, don't dwell on the rights and wrongs of the past."

"If you want to look forward, you must care about the present and the future!"

Alice seemed to understand a bit, but she nodded heavily: "Yeah!"

Louis breathed a sigh of relief and let go of Alice's shoulders.

Whether they are children from divorced families or children from reorganized families, they will work hard to find their own place after the original safe environment is split up.

If it is the former, the child will have to think about what his position will be without his father/mother.

Originally, he could get love from both sides, but now, he may only get love from one side.

After a divorce, children will inevitably face the problem of who to follow.

In this situation, the first thing he felt was that he was missing a sense of security.

In the worst case scenario, both copies may be missing.

Many children will live with their grandparents or grandparents.

Or maybe the elder is also a single parent.

Children with sensitive minds are more likely to feel insecure.

The most ideal situation is when parents divorce, but their love for their children does not diminish.

Giving children a sufficient sense of security is the best solution to this problem.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is divided into five levels from the bottom of the hierarchy upward:

Physiological (food and clothing), safety (job security), social needs (friendships), respect and self-actualization.

This five-stage model can be divided into deficit demand and growth demand.

The first four levels are often called defect requirements (d requirements), while the highest level is called growth requirements (b requirements).

The needs of childhood are typically the first-level needs, and they are also the most important and powerful needs.

If even this need is threatened, it will inevitably bring a devastating blow to the child.

This can lead to hysterical rebound attacks from the child.

He will use all his strength to resist and do everything possible to satisfy this demand.

Just like Alice, her father is gone, her mother is gone, and her grandparents and even her grandfather are not good people.

The only ones he could trust were his uncle Lin Nuo and Louis in front of him.

But Louis is an outsider after all and cannot get her custody.

With no other choice, Alice could only choose Lin Nuo.

Her sense of security was actually on the verge of destruction.

These days she managed to look good and gradually become normal, but she was just afraid of being abandoned again.

The current environment made her feel a little bit safe, so she worked hard to integrate, thinking that she could seize it.

But she was not stupid. Instead, she was keenly aware that the real talker in the family was Mrs. Si.

Because everyone respects Mrs. Si and respects Mrs. Si’s wishes in everything she says and does.

Whether it is Xiao Yuanman, the youngest prick head, or Sarah, the most respected grandfather, the whole family obeys Mrs. Si's orders.

If anyone meets Mrs. Si, Mrs. Si will win.

Children are sometimes more like small animals, Mu Qiang!

The logic of the law of the jungle is actually more applicable to children.

Alice understood this through observation, but she was actually more worried about:

"Louis, if Grandma Si's family knew that I had blamed her, would she kick me out?"

Facing such a question, Lewis was stunned for a moment.

Immediately, he probably understood Alice's logic, so he said with a smile:

"No, she is a kind and generous person, and also a smart and wise person. She will not argue with you, a child."

When Alice heard this, she breathed a sigh of relief visibly, and slowly sat on the back of the bamboo chair, her whole body relaxing:

"That's good, that's good!"

Louis was almost dumbfounded:

"Alice, don't tell me, you don't just blame Grandma Si in your heart."

"Actually, you still have a sense of awe that prevents you from approaching others easily?"

Louis guessed that this was a sign of respect for the strongest person from a weak person who wanted to integrate into a group.

Because I was at a loss, I didn't dare to act rashly, and my behavior was very awkward.

Alice smiled sheepishly and responded:

"Maybe, this awe is the part that I failed to handle well."

Lewis instantly understood that the little girl’s thoughts were quite complicated——

While blaming Mrs. Si for handing him over, he also feared that she would be the best person to protect him in the future.

This is a delicate psychological state. It doesn't matter if you blame someone, you can't do anything to others, and you have to be protected by others.

"Alice, I hope your future will be good. I hope you can grow up healthy and peacefully."

Louis also leaned on the back of the chair, holding the back of his head with his hands, looking at the blue sky and white clouds:

"Please don't feel like you're relying on others, be bold and work hard to be yourself."

"Well, thank you, Louis." Alice's eyes showed a precocious wisdom that was inconsistent with her age:

"Then, please ask Louis, can I have my uncle as my father?"

"No, uncle can only be an uncle. He will also have children of his own in the future."

Louis didn’t want to lie to his children, so he simply exposed:

"He is the father of his children, and the love he gives to his children must be his father's love."

"What he can give you is the guardian's obligation to support you."

"Of course, there is love, but that is not fatherly love."

"You also have your own father..."

"But my father is terrible. He seems to...never give me fatherly love." Alice was very sad:

"My father's majesty and glorious image have never been seen by me before!"

"Then let his image continue to be broken in your heart."

Louis is determined not to be a liar to children:

"Human life is like this. There are always some people and things that are broken and imperfect."

"Just like me, I work so hard but still don't get your mother's love."ъìqυgΕtv.℃ǒΜ

"I can't lie to you and say that Nuolan can be your father."

"One day, when Nuo Lan really has a child, you will find that he is subconsciously treating you differently."

"And no matter how hard you try, you can't get the same love as your cousin or cousin."

"At that time, I was afraid that you would be mentally unbalanced and prone to going to extremes."

"I made it clear from the beginning that telling you would not give you unrealistic desires and make you less vulnerable to harm."

"This is the sense of boundaries, do you understand?"

Alice understood and murmured "a sense of boundaries" repeatedly.

Then, she asked:

"Louis, you love my mother so much and she married you in that way, so why don't you be my father?"

Faced with this problem, Louis was not nervous or evasive, and remained rational:

"I don't have the confidence to be a good father. I can't lie to you."

"I can be your friend or your uncle, but I can't be your father."

"I cannot give you the fatherly love you lack, and I cannot lie to you."

Alice pouted and sighed: "Louis, you really live soberly!"

Louis laughed softly, stretched out his fist towards Alice, and said:

"Except for your mother, no one in this world has ever hurt me. See how useful my sobriety is?"

Alice fist-bumped with him and nodded in relief:
Chapter completed!