Affirming oneself is the basis of human existence.

When a person begins to doubt and deny himself, he will reject himself, others, and the world. He will doubt, question, and distrust himself, others, and the world, and he will not trust the truth.

This is the beginning of denial.

Either deny yourself, deny others, or deny the world.

When denial begins to sprout in the heart, people will fall into negative emotions, naturally quarrels, depression, and various mental illnesses will follow.

The reason why IU had mood swings during this period was because she had doubts about her own value and began to deny herself.

And Lee Seungwoo had lectured and criticized IU before, rather than affirming him. Although he didn't break up with IU, he tolerated IU's noisy and petty tempers more, which proved IU's status in his heart.

This is actually a common problem among most men.

I feel that no matter how sweet and tender words are, they are just empty words, far less real and powerful than actual actions.

but.

This is just a man's opinion.

Women are emotional, or, more essentially, women are far more self-centered, more selfish, and less able to control their desires than men.

What they follow more is the current state and current emotions.

so.

They also hope that men will affirm them all the time, put them first, and put them first.

This kind of psychology is euphemistically called 'emotional', but in reality, it is just more 'selfish'.

So from this perspective, 'love' is actually not a very beautiful word, and it is far less effective than 'respect' in maintaining the relationship between people.

What is love?

It doesn’t make much sense to delve deeper into its original intention, but in today’s society, the definition in the minds of many women can actually be equated with ‘selfishness’.

In this definition, what is love?

Love requires the other person to be unconditional, to have no regrets, not to care about gains and losses, life and death, friends, and relatives, and not to care about any consequences. Even if you give everything, including your life, you can't give it with the slightest hesitation or regret. Otherwise, if there is even a trace of inability to do it,

If there is a trace of hesitation and hesitation, that means you don’t love me enough, or you don’t love me that much.

So why do some women often ask - if your mother and I fell into the river, who would you save first?

This is actually a manifestation of extreme ego and selfishness.

Because the subtext is that I am the first, and you must give up everything you have for me, including you, and even the mother who gave birth to you.

If you can't do that, it means you don't 'love' me, or at least don't 'love' me enough.

So why do women often talk about "love" and why do they often instill the concept of "love" into men...Human nature is all about profit.

It's like the word 'responsibility' is instilled and given to men.

What is responsibility?

To use another similar word or meaning, it actually means giving without complaint.

Therefore, compared to the word 'love', this concept of 'respect' is actually more capable of maintaining the relationship between people.

Because respect means mutual affirmation and mutual contribution, not just unilateral demands.…

Confucius said that it is disrespectful to go back and forth without coming back.

In fact, the ancients, or Confucianism, have long pointed out how people can communicate with each other for a longer period of time. - through etiquette, respect, and mutual respect.

This is true between people, and it is true between men and women.

Lee Seung Woo didn't understand this before, so when it came to getting along with IU, Lin Yoona, Park Ji Yeon and others, he was actually more self-centered and selfish.

certainly.

Now that he understands this, it doesn't mean that he is no longer self-centered or selfish.

He just knows better how to deal with the relationship with IU and others, or in other words, how to meet the expectations and needs of IU, Yoona and others. That is to give them the recognition and respect they want.

Not only in actions, but also in words.

Less denial and criticism, more affirmation and respect, so that people around you will be happier and you will feel more comfortable.

Lifting his hands gently to wipe away the tears on both sides of IU's cheeks, Li Chengyou smiled warmly and said softly: "Why are you crying again? You cry at every turn, your face is stained with tears."

IU sobbed, grabbed Li Chengyou's hand, and said half coquettishly and half reproachfully: "It's not you who provoked me. If you had told me this earlier, how could I be angry?"

Li Chengyou: "..."

have to!

It's my fault again.

Women are never wrong, only men are wrong.

But Lee Seung-woo has looked past these verbal arguments about victory and right and wrong, and has taken it lightly. He no longer has the intention to compete with IU to win or lose.

Smiling dumbly, Li Chengyou nodded calmly: "I did do a lot of things wrong in the past, and I want to apologize to you. I promise to correct you in the future, and I will respect you more and care about you more. Of course, you can't be petty anymore.

, you always make trouble with me. If I am really wrong and you are legitimately angry, I will sincerely apologize to you and correct you humbly.

But if you act petty..."

"Who is acting petty? It's not all because of you." IU wiped her tears and opened her mouth to retort.

Li Chengyou smiled: "Okay, I admit my mistake, it's all my fault."

"It's your fault in the first place." IU couldn't help but muttered again.

After finishing his words, he seemed to think of something again, and suddenly asked: "By the way, I almost forgot, you just said that I am not as smart as Lin Yoona, not as emotionally intelligent as her, not as beautiful as Ji Yan, and not as good as Ji Yan, then what about you?

Why do you like me? What do you like about me?"

What do I like about you? I like you because you are stupid.

Li Chengyou laughed secretly, but he would not really answer like this. Although this is indeed the main reason why IU attracts him and he likes IU.

Actually stupid.

If you look at it in a derogatory way, it means you are stupid or unintelligent; but if you look at it in a positive way, it means it is simple and sincere.

Blessings and misfortunes depend on each other, pros and cons complement each other.

Being smart is an advantage, but it is also a disadvantage.

Smart people are often too calculating, concerned about gains and losses, and interests. The more things they care about, the less sincere their hearts will be.

Unless they are those who are truly smart enough to realize wisdom, the smarter they are and the smarter they act, the more defensive they will be, the more wary they will be, and the less they will dare to truly talk to each other.

This is like the difference between Lin Yoona and IU.

Lin Yoona is indeed smart and has high emotional intelligence, but she is too smart and cares about gains and losses, so she and Lee Seung-woo have known each other for more than two years and have collaborated on two works, but so far they still have not really come together.

But IU is not as beautiful as her, and her IQ and EQ are not as good as hers, but she has caught up with Lee Seung Woo a long time ago.

Why do most men like stupid women?

to be honest.

Human nature is 'selfish'. Whether it is a man or a woman, they both like each other more and hope that the other party will pay more.

People are all self-centered, regardless of gender.

It's just that women are more serious than men.

But even though I know it well and understand why I like IU, I can't say it so straightforwardly.

A person can be selfish, but he cannot be so selfish that he thinks that others are not selfish. He takes it for granted that others should obey him, understand him, and serve him.

The result of thinking this way will only cause trouble for yourself.

so.

As soon as his thoughts changed, Li Chengyou did not answer directly, but borrowed a famous saying.

"There is a saying that I think is very good, and we can both encourage each other. - Einstein once said: Everyone has talents, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb trees, it will spend its whole life.
Chapter completed!