Xu Yi is a student in Class 2 of Applied Psychology. Like many students who choose this major independently, her purpose in choosing psychology is to better understand herself and her inner world.

But individual cognition is ultimately limited, especially in the profession of psychological counselor. If you want to help others through psychological counseling, you have to go to psychological counseling frequently and have your own supervision.

Yuan Jia's psychological supervisor was Director Chen, and she learned a lot from him in the beginning, so that she could view her inner world more objectively.

At four o'clock in the afternoon, Xu Yi arrived at Yuan Jia's psychological consultation room on time, rang the doorbell, and waited quietly.

Then I saw a pretty little girl running out of the house, leaning forward to press the switch next to the glass door, but it was not high enough and she couldn't reach it.

Xu Yi found it interesting, so he leaned down, waved to Huihui through the glass door, and said with a smile: "Hi~!"

Yuan Jia came out, opened the door and invited Xu Yi in.

"Good afternoon, Teacher Yuan."

Xu Yi folded his hands in front of him and bent slightly to say hello to Yuan Jia.

"How about you, Xiaoyi."

Yuan Jia responded with a smile, turned sideways, and invited her into the house with both hands.

"Hello sister!"

Huihui said hello crisply, staring at Xu Yi with her big eyes unblinking.

This is also a beautiful sister, at least prettier than the teacher in charge, younger, her hair is very long, and she smells good.

"Ah, hello, hello, what's your name?"

Xu Yi knelt down to talk to Yuan Hui.

"My name is Yuan Fei!"

"Hua Hui." Yuanjia reminded, "This is my sister."

"So cute..."

Xu Yi held Yuan Hui's little hand. She especially liked children, not to mention such a good-looking little Luoli.

"Just now I thought it was Teacher Yuan's daughter, but then I remembered that the teacher is not married yet, haha."

"He's my brother!"

The three of them were talking, and Ika slowly walked out of the equipment room.

Seeing such a big fat little cat, Xu Yi's eyes lit up, and she squatted down and waved to Ika, imitating meowing at the same time. She loved cute children and animals the most.

We haven’t started the consultation yet, but just seeing the combination of Yuan Hui and Yika makes me feel in a good mood today.

Yuan Hui picked up Ika, and the little fat cat was stretched into a long noodle, with the flesh on his face squeezed together.

Xu Yi took the opportunity to touch its big head. The plush feeling was particularly comfortable.

"So cute~!"

"Meow."

"Come in and chat."

"Uh-huh."

Yuan Jia opened the door of the office, picked up the remote control on the desk and turned on the air conditioner. Under the sunset, the office was bright. As the air conditioner blew out the cool wind, Xu Yi felt very comfortable.

She just came from school and didn't tell any of her classmates that it was still very hot in Sunan at three or four o'clock. Teacher Yuan turned on the air conditioner very carefully.

He casually took out a bottle of refrigerated juice from the refrigerator and placed it in front of Xu Yi.

He didn't pour tea for Xu Yi. From her psychology and behavior, we can guess a lot about her usual taste. Juice is a drink that almost all girls like.

He picked up all kinds of details at his fingertips without having to say them, which made Xu Yi feel very comfortable invisibly.

It was like coming to the home of a friend whom I have known for many years. He could know all her little hobbies and habits, and the little nervousness at the beginning disappeared invisibly.

In the process of psychological counseling, what really makes a difference is actually the one or two hours of chatting together, which works on the emotional level.

Through interviews and relationship sorting, the client's inner world is opened up, the connection between the two is established, and the client is guided to express and tell a certain part of his inner emotions, and the counselor develops tolerance and empathy for this part of the emotion.

, this is an unprecedented experience for visitors.

She can feel that she is understood, cared for, and respected, and that her emotions are being listened to carefully. Even negative emotions such as anger, complaints, complaints, etc. can be expressed to the other party, and are tolerated and accepted by the other party.

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The relief and relaxation brought about by this counseling relationship are the most important purposes of psychological counseling.

Suggestions and such are actually just embellishments. At Yuanjia's level, he can easily empathize with most of the visitors' emotions. Even if he doesn't say a word during the whole process and just listens quietly, the visitors will still feel a sense of empathy.

It feels like 'I've spoken out everything in my heart, it's so refreshing'.

People who come for psychological consultation subjectively think that they are here to 'seek advice', but in fact they are not. What they need most is not advice, but 'analysis' and 'understanding'

If these two requirements are not met, then all the 'suggestions' are nonsense. If these two requirements are met, then the suggestions are actually dispensable. The client can already clearly understand his inner world.

They know better what they should do in the future.

"Teacher Yuan, do you think I'm weird? I'm obviously a psychology major, but I can't even solve my own problems..."

"Of course not. If you can discover your own problems, you are already doing better than many people."

"I am twenty-two years old this year, but... I feel that I have never liked or completely trusted someone. I am not afraid of Teacher Yuan's jokes when I say it. I have no experience in love. Everyone says that Xiao Yi is good-looking and there must be a man.

It’s just friends. In fact, I really don’t have any. It’s not that I haven’t liked others, and it’s not that others are bad. It’s just that I can’t devote myself wholeheartedly to feelings..."

Xu Yi began to talk about his troubles, and Yuan Jia listened.

"Recently, a senior is pursuing me. He is a person with high emotional intelligence. Compared to me who stays in the dormitory all day, he is better at interacting with people. He is also very kind to me and cares about me. We met during a meeting last week.

Here, he expressed his love for me and expressed his desire to be with me."

"He asked me if I liked him. I didn't know how to answer at that time. I could only keep saying I didn't know."

"Actually, I know very well that I really enjoy the feeling of being loved and cared about by others, but at the same time I am very uneasy. I feel that I have never loved anyone. I lack security and trust in any intimate relationship.

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"When he confessed his love to me, there seemed to be another voice inside me saying: He is lying to you."

"Maybe he just saw the good side of me, and I was afraid that he would find out that I wasn't good enough."

"I know this is my problem. I can't trust him. I often imagine the picture of marriage and life with him, and I long for it, but I also often think of bad pictures, domestic violence, trivial matters, quarrels, etc.

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"My father passed away when I was very young. For this reason, I have always felt a sense of loss and low self-esteem. My mother worked alone outside the home. I grew up in the home of relatives. My life has always been quite homeless."

"I have a very cute dog. Until now, I feel that the closest relationship, the relationship that makes me feel safe and trusting the most, is this dog. I love it very much. I hold it and feel it.

body temperature, I feel very happy, which is something I have never felt in interpersonal relationships."

"I was aware of my own problems, but felt powerless to change them. The feeling of being unable to be trusted made me very painful. I read a lot of books but couldn't find the answer."

"Teacher...what should I do..."

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Chapter completed!