Zhao Shiyin is a Chinese teacher and class teacher, and she often communicates with students.

Because she is relatively friendly, many students in the class are willing to talk to her about their troubles.

It would be nice if she could help the students, but often she doesn't even know how to solve many problems herself.

For example, what happened to Liu Yuan last time has always been on Zhao Shiyin's mind.

Psychological counselors are more often like a trash can for negative emotions. If Zhao Shiyin were to be a psychological counselor, she felt that she would soon have psychological problems.

"The greatest feeling..."

Yuan Jia thought for a while and said, "Psychological counseling is not a panacea."

Zhao Shiyin nodded and asked: "Then you come into contact with those visitors every day, do you think it's unbearable?"

Li Ying also added: "Yes, yes, usually if a friend tells me something bad, I feel bad after hearing it. I heard that many psychological counselors have to see a psychiatrist themselves in the end...

…”

Yuan Jia looked at the two girls in the rearview mirror, smiled and said, "It's true, I was like this at the beginning, but after I changed my mind, I was able to adapt."

"The key is to improve yourself. Clients who come to psychological counseling have a very low aura, carrying all kinds of negative emotions and energy. If my aura is not enough, we will be finished together during the interaction."

Seeing Yuan Jia's relaxed tone, Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying also laughed.

"Then what kind of people are they?"

"They just experienced more than ordinary people, and then fell into some kind of difficulty."

Yuan Jia drove the car steadily, looking forward, and continued: "They know that the current situation is not good, but they don't know why it became like this, and they don't know which step they took wrong, just like a lost person.

People need a guide."

"Do you know what the most impressive thing a visitor said to me was?"

"He said, 'I really want to get better'"

"His depression is very serious, but it does not hinder his kindness. I taught him many methods, but he really can't do it. When he chatted with me, three out of ten sentences he said were apologetic."

"Every time this happens, I feel very powerless. Psychological consultation is not a panacea. Even if I give him the right method, it may not be able to alleviate his pain."

Perhaps Yuanjia's words touched the emotions of the two girls, and they both became quiet.

Behind the sunshine, there is such a group of people who need courage to even survive.

"Then Yuanjia, do you sympathize with them?"

"They don't need sympathy from others, and I never sympathize with visitors, but I will understand them and try my best to understand them."

Zhao Shiyin nodded and said: "Probably the most beautiful thing in the world is that I understand you."

Yuan Jia smiled and said: "The biggest lie in the world also makes me understand you."

"A teenager who has been neglected by his family since he was a child told me that every time on Mother's Day, there are always many words of gratitude in his circle of friends. He doesn't understand what gratitude feels like."

"There is also a girl who was beaten black and blue by her parents since she was a child. She said that she could never do anything well and made mistakes in everything she did. She did not dare to look up at other people's eyes. Once or twice when she did well, she

Tell yourself it's just good luck."

"There are many examples like this. When faced with their questions, I couldn't even say the words 'I understand you'. It was like weighing a thousand pounds. I simply couldn't understand what he had gone through, and then I had to Advise him to be more open-minded?"

"This is probably a torture that every counselor will experience."

As Yuanjia spoke, he recalled the previous visitors in his mind. At that time, he was unable to empathize and was unable to help them at all.

Zhao Shiyin could also feel Yuan Jia's helplessness, just like she heard the students' troubles and wanted to help them, but didn't know where to start.

"Yuanjia...then is there any way to help them?"

"Yes, and I am working hard in this direction now."

Yuanjia continued: "Many people actually want to treat others well, especially their relatives, friends, and lovers, but because they have never been treated well, they really don't know how to do it. .”

"Ordinary people cannot imagine or feel things they have never experienced. What I can do is try my best to understand them."

"Understand their experience, understand their pain, and then give them a real experience of being treated well."

This is a method Yuan Jia came up with after learning about hypnosis and anchoring last night.

Under the premise of empathy, he can hypnotize visitors and then implant beautiful anchors into their hearts.

Similar to surgery, removing the diseased thinking and replacing it with healthy thinking can effectively relieve the patient's mental pain.

Hypnotherapy is a commonly used method in psychological counseling, but there are only a handful of psychiatrists who can really use it. Most of the time it only plays a soothing role.

The longer I have been a psychological counselor, the more I feel that the power of words is insufficient, especially for people who have been traumatized since childhood. As time goes by, they cannot be cured with just a few words.

Common colds and fevers can be solved by taking medicine, but when a malignant tumor grows on the body, it must be surgically removed to restore health.

Of course, hypnotherapy is not suitable for all patients with mental illness. Patients with schizophrenia, disorders of consciousness, etc. cannot use hypnosis, otherwise the disease will be more serious.

Xu Nanzhi's social phobia, agoraphobia, and depression are very suitable for treatment with hypnosis.

It's just that she has been ill for nearly twenty years, and both her personality and thinking have been seriously eroded. Now is not the best time to receive hypnotherapy. She must wait until Gardenia is ready, and then assist with hypnosis step by step. treat.

At the very least, she must be able to meet Yuan Jia so that Yuan Jia can better help her. But now it seems that, except for Yuan Jia, Gardenia completely rejects any outsiders, and even saw someone on the balcony from a distance. , would hide in the house in panic.

…

It is now the rush hour after get off work, and there is a slight traffic jam on the road. Yuanjia is not anxious, unlike many drivers who get upset and angry when encountering traffic jams.

In fact, if there are other girls sitting in the car, boys must remember not to get angry because of the traffic jam. They will feel scared, especially when they are driving the girl they like.

"The traffic jam is so annoying..."

"Yuanjia, I'm so sorry that I asked you to send us off specially and then got stuck in traffic."

The two girls seemed more anxious than Yuan Jia. Yuan Jia just smiled slightly and had a calm and peaceful aura. In the eyes of the two girls, she felt particularly comfortable.

"Hey, Yuanjia, I remembered a discussion question asked by the teacher before. It said that you were driving a train. There were four children playing on the track in front of you. On the track at the corner, a child shouted at the top of his lungs to his companions to leave. There are two choices.

If you keep going forward, you will hit four children, but if you change lanes, you will hit only one child. What will your choice be?"

Li Ying asked curiously.

Without thinking, Yuan Jia replied: "No change."

"why?"

"Why should an innocent person bear the responsibility for the mistakes made by four people?"

Li Ying and Zhao Shiyin were thoughtful and nodded in agreement.

Yuan Jia put his hands on the steering wheel, started the car, and continued: "Actually, there is a more difficult problem."

"What is it?"

"Suppose in the question just now, the driver changed lanes and hit the child. The child miraculously survived. This incident caused great trauma to his soul. At this time, as a psychological counselor, what should you do?

Do?"

Yuan Jia's question directly knocked Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying down.

How to do?

Advise him to be more open-minded?

Tell him to understand what the train conductor did?

The two girls shook their heads and asked, "What will you do, Yuanjia?"

"I can't do anything, so I choose not to follow the path."

Yuan Jia said: "There is no way to turn back time and fill up this trauma. For the person involved, this matter is not just in the past, it is really in the past."

…

The car stopped in front of a community. Zhao Shiyin and Li Ying arrived, waving goodbye to Yuan Jia.

"Let's play ball together some other time."

"Okay, bye~"

"Bye~"

Watching the car drive away, Li Ying poked Zhao Shiyin, who was still stunned.

"What are you thinking about?"

"No, I was thinking about what Yuan Jia just said."

"Dr. Yuan is a really understanding and considerate handsome guy."

Li Ying sighed and poked Zhao Shiyin's weak spot with the racket again, "Hey, are you really going to give up? Although I've been hurting you all day long, sister, you're great anyway. Why don't you try to pursue me?"

Zhao Shiyin said speechlessly: "Don't make trouble, Yuan Jia already has someone he likes."

"Well, if you like it, you like it. We're not together yet. You still have a chance, but your opponent is hiding in the dark, and it's really difficult for you..."

"What kind of opponent... I like being single."

"Yo yo"
Chapter completed!