"Hello, auntie, I am Yuanjia, a friend of Gardenia. I am here to deliver some textbooks to her."

Bai Yan came back to her senses and quickly opened the door. Not to mention Gardenia, even she didn't expect that Yuan Jia would go there in person to deliver some books.

"Hello, hello, Gardenia often mentioned you to me. She didn't expect you to deliver it in person, and asked me to help with the express delivery..."

Bai Yan was a little embarrassed, so she turned sideways and invited: "Yuanjia, come in and sit down..."

Yuan Jia smiled and said, "No, actually I am the one who made the decision and sent the book here myself. I didn't tell her because I was afraid she would be nervous. In fact, I came here mainly because I wanted to see you."

Bai Yan was a little surprised, "See me?"

"Yes, I want to talk to you about Gardenia."

Yuan Jia nodded and said: "Her condition has improved a bit recently, but there are some things that still require your help, auntie, so I didn't come uninvited."

Bai Yan naturally wouldn't mind, especially if it could help Gardenia recover, she wouldn't be able to say anything wrong.

The two of them did not go into the house, but walked slowly and talked together, and sat and chatted at the pavilion in the yard.

Yuan Jia is now very good at recognizing people by face. While talking to Bai Yan, he observed her.

From the tone of her voice, the changes in her eyebrows, her sitting posture and other small details, Yuan Jia can easily tell that Bai Yan is also a very introverted woman.

Personality is a hereditary trait, and Gardenia should have inherited a large part of her personality from her mother.

…

Gardenia didn't notice Yuan Jia's arrival. This was the closest she had been to Yuan Jia in the past ten years, but she never expected that Yuan Jia was at her home.

She was reading quietly in her room and took out her mobile phone to send a message to Yuan Jia.

Gardenia: "It seems the express has arrived! What are you doing?"

Yuan Jia sat down on the pavilion seat, saw the message light of the mobile phone in his hand turned on, and opened it to reply to her.

Yuan Jia: "I'm outside. I'll talk to you when I get home later."

Gardenia: "Yeah!"

The chat with Bai Yan basically revolved around Gardenia's illness. Yuanjia knew very well that Gardenia refused to tell him many things, especially when she encountered some difficulties, she would only tell Yuanjia that she was happy.

I rarely talk about sad things.

If Yuanjia wants to understand this, she can only go through Bai Yan, and only by knowing Gardenia's situation more comprehensively can she be better helped.

Bai Yan knows that Yuan Jia is a psychological counselor, and she also hopes to get his help, especially if her daughter is willing to contact him, no psychologist can be as helpful as Yuan Jia.

Yuan Jia took the initiative to meet this time, creating an opportunity for mutual communication.

Bai Yan started talking about Gardenia when she was a child.

"Actually, her father and I both blamed ourselves. At that time, we just thought that our daughter was introverted and our business had just started, so we neglected to take care of her..."

When talking about the past, Bai Yan also looked very painful and regretful.

By the time it was discovered that Gardenia was not an 'introvert', the seeds of phobia had already taken root and sprouted, and were growing crazily.

In the early stage, they also took Gardenia to see many psychological counselors, but almost all of them were of no use, because Gardenia subconsciously resisted outsiders, she did not trust them at all, and others could not help her. In addition, some

Due to her physical defects, she stutters when she is nervous. Whenever she is nervous, fear immediately overwhelms her rationality. She does not know what to do, so she can only escape from the crowd again and again.

After dropping out of school, Gardenia almost never left home. She used to live in the downtown area, but then she also moved and came to live here.

Ten years have passed in the blink of an eye. Her peers have graduated and started working, but Gardenia is still working hard to get out of home.

One time five years ago, Gardenia plucked up the courage to tell Bai Yan that she wanted to take a walk outside, so Bai Yan accompanied her. When she walked to the yard, her face was already pale, her hands and feet were cold, and she had only been out of the house for less than three minutes.

Mi, she fainted, and after that time, Bai Yan never dared to let her come out again.

It can be said that Gardenia now walks freely in the yard and even grows watermelons. This kind of change was something Bai Yan never dared to imagine before.

Bai Yan said a lot, and Yuan Jia listened carefully, keeping every word and sentence in mind.

At the same time, he also told Bai Yan some of his thoughts. What reassured him was that Bai Yan and his wife were very wise and had done almost everything they could in terms of how to take care of Gardenia on a daily basis.

At least at home, Gardenia doesn't have any psychological burden.

But if she wants to go outside, the concepts of 'parents' and 'home' cannot give her more help. She needs her subconscious to have more expectations for the outside world, have greater self-confidence, and embrace

Just have the highest expectations.

In this process, other people's "push" is useless. Even if you drag her and accompany her outside, it will be useless. She will still be afraid of the outside.

If she wants to change, she must make Gardenia's own subconscious generate "source power". She desires to go out from the bottom of her heart, she wants to go out to meet others, and she wants to go out and live.

Self-awareness and subconsciousness are two concepts.

In Gardenia's self-consciousness, she has always wanted to go out, but this is not her subconscious wish, but because she is afraid of her parents' worries or social ethics, so she feels that she should go out.

In her inner subconscious, she rejects the outside world and people outside, so when she goes outside and comes into contact with people, she will be instinctively afraid.

She consciously knew that hiding at home was not good, but subconsciously she felt very comfortable and safe, so a huge conflict arose in her heart, and pain arose from this.

But fortunately, with the understanding and comfort of her parents, Gardenia's depression is controllable.

It is very difficult to make Gardenia generate "source power". When Bai Yan chatted with Gardenia before, she also heard the words of other psychological counselors, such as telling her more about outside things and describing more.

Looking at the outside world, unexpectedly, it did not stimulate Gardenia's "motivation", and almost had the opposite effect, making Gardenia even more depressed because she could not go out.

This is because in Gardenia's concept, father and mother are part of the family. It is difficult for them to serve as the 'source of motivation' to go to the outside world. If father and mother say these words to her, they will only make her feel uncomfortable.

She feels pressure and feels that "home" is pushing her away, and she will naturally become nervous and restless.

The existence of Yuanjia is special to Gardenia. He acts as the "source of motivation" for Gardenia to go to the outside world. It is different from pushing her outside from the "home". He hands her a rope from outside and lets her go to the outside world.

Gardenia can pull itself out because of its 'source power'.

Not everyone can take on this role. Everyone likes to get along with positive people, but not everyone can be like Yuan Jia, who is willing to protect the fragile heart of a girl.

It is easy to run two kilometers while holding a wooden block, but if you are holding a piece of tofu that breaks into pieces when you touch it, you have to be careful even when walking.

This process requires far more effort than imagined.

Yuan Jia doesn't care, because he likes it, and if he likes it, he just likes it.

No one can accurately tell why they like someone. The long list of reasons you can give are all deduced from the premise of liking.

When you like someone, you will think his stinginess is frugal, and her unreasonableness will be frank. Anyway, there are advantages in all of them. You don't like the other person because of these "advantages", but because you like the other person, so

These are all advantages.

Yuan Jia doesn't like blind dates, it's like putting two people on the table with a clear price tag.

He actually had a romantic interest, and there was actually an open seat on the first day of school, but when he walked into the classroom, the first person he saw was her huddled in the corner, so he walked over and became her classmate by accident.

It's just that I didn't know it clearly at the time, and I was still confused in adolescence. After so many years, I came back to my senses, and suddenly realized that I had made so many changes without knowing it because of her.

If she didn't like her, why would she give her gardenias? If she didn't like her, who would keep her textbooks for ten years? If she didn't like her, who would choose this extremely unpopular psychology!!

But Yuan Jia really did all these things in a daze, and only now did he realize, oh, it turns out that I already had someone I liked at that time.

"This is the most important thing I am here to communicate with you today. In fact, all you need to do is to create a relaxed and positive family environment, which is equivalent to stabilizing the 'home', a haven that makes Gardenia feel safe.

Then I slowly helped her come out. This process cannot be accomplished overnight and may take a long, long time, but it is definitely the most effective method."

"This is also the reason why I came here quietly without telling Gardenia or meeting her. In fact, I really want to see her..."

"Only when she has convinced herself and made all preparations, and she really wants to meet me and takes the initiative to tell me, then it will make sense for me to see her again."

"And this is also the first step to Gardenia's success."

Yuanjia really wanted to meet Gardenia and see her changes in the past ten years, but when he thought that he had gone through high school, college, and work, ten years had passed and Gardenia was still stuck in the same year, he felt

Particularly distressed.

A person's life is only so long, and she was devoured by mental illness for a full ten years.

Bai Yan nodded. After this conversation, she already knew something about Yuan Jia. Naturally, she could see his sincerity towards Gardenia. After experiencing so many things, who was fake and who was true? She

You can tell at a glance.

"Gardenia...she likes you very much..."

Bai Yan said softly, "She often tells me about you. Although she doesn't admit it, I can tell that she really likes you..."

Yuan Jia knew what Bai Yan was worried about, and he said: "I will always be there."

"That's good...that's good..."

Bai Yan's eyes were slightly red, she raised her head slightly and blinked to prevent tears from coming out, "Yuanjia, I'm sorry to bother you about Gardenia... If she knew you were coming, she would be very happy..."

Yuan Jia shook his head and said: "Auntie, it's better not to tell her that I've been here. Her rhythm is very good and stable now. Don't make her nervous because of this matter. Today I mainly chat with you. I usually talk to Gardenia.

In our chats, she often talks about you, so I need you to cooperate with me to do these things."

Bai Yan nodded to express her understanding.

She pointed to a balcony on the second floor and said with a smile: "Gardenia lives in that room. She often paints on the balcony these days, but when someone at home comes, she immediately hides in the room."

Gardenia's room could see the courtyard, but she was not interested and did not dare to come out to see who it was.

"Auntie, can I see Gardenia's watermelon patch?"

"sure……"
Chapter completed!