"Huo Xin, people who have been here often say that you don't understand love when you first fall in love, and you don't understand love when you are young. This is all true. Do you really understand love? I think you can't even explain what love is."

"I don't understand love?" Huo Xin was certainly not convinced, "Then what do you think love is?"

"The ultimate goal of love is marriage, for two people to grow old together and raise children, right? If you agree with this, then the essence of love is responsibility. It is the mutual commitment of two people to shoulder everything together and face everything together.

Courage and perseverance in hardships. Of course, there is also the romance of flowers before the moon and under the moon. But those are very few, and they will never account for more than 20%."

The answer given by Ning Weimin is the view of a mature and sophisticated person.

"Are these your own thoughts? Or are you deliberately copying someone else's words? Why do I feel that you and I are not of the same age? Old man, how expensive are you this year? I think you must be fifty years old, right?"

Huo Xin, however, couldn't understand Ning Weimin's performance beyond his age.

I thought he was deliberately using excuses to perfunctory me, so I couldn't help but taunt him.

But the more frustrated she was, the more Ning Weimin wanted to laugh.

"Look, your reaction like this shows that you are just a child. Is love just about two people who are in love with each other, who are in love with each other, and who love each other when they are in love with each other?"

"I'm very sorry. I have to tell you that the world does not revolve around us. No one will be young forever. There will always be only good luck."

"In life, all bad things are possible, including the death of a loved one, being disabled in a car accident, betrayal, abandonment, living under the influence of others, leaving one's hometown, and meeting unkind people..."

"Sounds scary, right? But it's all true. In other words, if the ingredients of love are as simple as you think, it would be too easy, and there would be no need to talk about the word 'precious'?"

I don't know if he was angry at this rebuttal or was really frightened by Ning Weimin's description.

Huo Xin's face became increasingly ugly and she couldn't help but scream.

"What you said is too scary, and you are trying to scare me, right? Or do you want to discuss life and deliberately change the topic? Stop talking about the truth. We are just talking about the two of us!"

Ning Weimin was just the opposite of her, his smile became calmer.

"Now I am more convinced that I was right. You are just a child. You always don't understand that it is precisely because we have different ideas, our values, worldview, and outlook on life that we cannot come together.

The real obstacle is actually whether the personality is compatible or not is not that big of an issue."

"You must know that there is no difference in personality between good and bad. If you have similar temperament and the same hobbies, you can naturally have fun. But if you have different personalities, you can complement each other. Think about it, if your partner can help you when you are impulsive.

Isn't it a good thing to give yourself a push, or to give yourself a push when you are weak? Your temper is impatient, but you also have a straightforward side, so why change it?"

"What's more, as the saying goes, nature is hard to change, and nature cannot be changed at all. If you change, will you still be yourself? If you change reluctantly, it is equivalent to erasing yourself. You will definitely not succeed, and you will feel even more painful. There is nothing in this world.

People are worthy of you doing this.”

Perhaps because people like to hear good things, Huo Xin finally paid attention to Ning Weimin's explanation and thought about it seriously.

"Ideology? Are these big and boundless things you mentioned empty? Even so. Can't two people get along with each other and influence each other to gradually reach an agreement?"

Ning Weimin shook his head decisively.

"Of course not. Although people's three views are acquired, they require long-term learning and experience. They are also the comprehensive product of personal family background, life experience, and social experience. That is precisely the unique characteristic of each person that is different from others. Yes

It represents oneself far more than personality. It can be said that three views are one’s beliefs and one’s soul.”

"So true 'like-mindedness' is not about liking music, chess, calligraphy and painting at all, but agreement on three views. Otherwise, why would so many revolutionaries with the same ideals be willing to sacrifice themselves to protect their comrades? On the contrary,

You can also take a look. How many couples who were originally happy broke up on their own initiative, and how many relatives who were originally harmonious suddenly turned against each other. Isn’t it all because of this problem? "

Huo Xin was stunned when she heard this. It was obvious that she had never thought about these issues before, and her knowledge was refreshed by Ning Weimin.

I was stunned for a long time before I came back to my senses.

"But the things of the past are in the past. These are not war years anymore. Moreover, many broken families have reconciled as before. Don't you think you have worried enough? People get along with each other, more

It's just a trivial matter of food, rice, oil and salt, how can it be forever involved in these big conflicts of right and wrong?"

Ning Weimin shook his head firmly again.

"You are wrong. The differences in three views may not be so intense in today's life, but the inherent contradictions will follow them everywhere. Because the three views are the source that drives people's words and deeds. Just like

This is what our last quarrel was like. Why I returned the pickup truck to the company and why I stayed away from the head office, I can’t explain to you. You won’t understand..."

Although Huo Xin also believes that the truth is correct, because it involves herself, how can she admit it?

"Who said that? You should have told me earlier that you had such a plan. How could I not support it?"

Faced with Huo Xin's urgent argument, Ning Weimin asked another question.

"Then what if I failed? The restaurant failed to do well and lost money. Even if I was fired from the head office, would you still think so? If I resigned tomorrow and left to start a new business by myself, I would rather be self-employed. You

What will you think? Will you still support me? Let’s not take it as an afterthought.”

"You... want to leave?" Huo Xin no longer cared about discussing the problem itself, and suddenly became anxious, "You... why are you doing this? You obviously have a bright future."

Ning Weimin couldn't help but laugh at her shift of attention.

"Haha, I'm just making an analogy. But you see, what I said is right, right? Although your concern for me is well-intentioned, our views are different, and our perceptions are different. I can tell you, what you think

I actually don't care much about the great future. I want to live a happy life, have the freedom to be independent, and start a business on my own. In your eyes, I'm afraid it's the same as a lunatic."

"But...but isn't it because you are too diverse? Who in the normal world would give up a stable and secure future? Let all the hard work he has put in go to waste?"

Huo Xin's confusion and panic meant that she had completely followed Ning Weimin's lead.

So naturally, Ning Weimin easily caught the flaw in her words and denied it.

"No, no, who said all the previous efforts were wasted? Isn't everything I did before useless to myself? Isn't it the gain of experience and the growth of ability? This is something you ignore. And the position you value

and decency are the biggest differences in our values."

"Frankly speaking, if you were born in such a family, it is inevitable that you will have such values. In fact, I can understand why you attach so much importance to status, education, position, future, and privileges, as well as your persistence instinct.

But I definitely don’t like it and I won’t approve it. So we become people in two worlds.”

"Huo Xin, you and I grew up in completely different environments. I'm just a child from a common people's family. If love and marriage are to be happy, two people must have consistent views. To be honest, I don't know what kind of person I should marry.

, although I haven’t thought about it clearly myself. But one thing I know is clear. The two of us are absolutely not suitable, and it is 100% impossible."

"The best way for us to get along with each other is actually to keep a distance and just be ordinary friends. Then we can tolerate each other, understand each other, and even help each other."

Perhaps because Ning Weimin hit the nail on the head, his outspokenness made Huo Xin a little angry.

Hearing this, she interrupted suddenly.

"Look at what you said about me, that I am so philistine and so bad? You are being extreme! People go to higher places, and water flows to lower places. Isn't it natural for people to pursue success throughout their lives? Ordinary people's homes are like that.

What’s wrong? Don’t people want their children to go to college, join the military, and find a good job?”

"Also, humans are social creatures, and everyone builds a complete society together. As an individual in society, don't we need to worry about other people's feelings? That's called selfishness! If you choose yourself out like you, public order and civilization

How can we maintain politeness?”

"No, no, you are not selfish, but you have low self-esteem! I was almost deceived by you. You are using a cynical attitude to cover up your low self-esteem. On the surface, you look very proud when you reject others. But in fact, this

But it’s a sign that you don’t have confidence.”

"You mind my family because you only want to stay in the environment you are familiar with and don't dare to move forward. There is a saying that you would rather be the head of a chicken than the tail of a phoenix. Is that how you are? Are you?

Are you afraid of accepting my feelings because you feel too much pressure on my family?"

Ning Weimin had long expected that this issue was too sensitive and Huo Xin would probably become emotional.

But what she never expected was that she would actually assume that she had low self-esteem.

Out of pride, Ning Weimin originally wanted to argue.

But after thinking about it, is this kind of verbal dispute meaningful? In fact, it doesn’t matter.

As long as his goal is achieved, what does it matter what Huo Xin thinks?

"Whatever you think, we have different views anyway, and this kind of problem cannot be solved in one place."

"You're still a grown man, how can you be so negative about life? What truly determines a person's success depends on how he fights, works hard, and strives for it! You don't understand this at all..."

"How come I don't understand the truth? You think the problem is too simple. To put it bluntly, it's like eating in a restaurant and eating something dirty on the plate. People who don't care continue to eat, and those who care have no appetite.

.Can you tell who is right and who is wrong? Can you force someone who doesn’t want to eat to continue eating?”

"Why does this involve eating? What on earth are you talking about?"

I don’t know if it’s because I’m young or because I really don’t understand the ways of the world.

Many tactful methods could have left room for both parties, but they did not apply to Huo Xin at all.

To be honest, Huo Xin didn't look like a Beijing native, which made Ning Weimin feel helpless.

When talking to her, you can't be subtle, you can only be explicit.

"Then let me explain it a little more clearly. What if... I mean what if, we were together? We can imagine it."

"As a poor boy, would I be happy if I entered a family of senior cadres? No, no matter how hard I work, no matter how outstanding I am, I will be said to be taking advantage of nepotism in the future. So what's the point of my hard work and struggle?

"

"And you, how should you treat me? Be cautious, lest I feel ignored and despised. But aren't you sad about this? It's not fair to you either."

"Similarly, even if your parents accept me, it's because of you. What if I have a conflict with them? What should you do if you are caught in the middle?"

"There is absolutely no possibility of harmony in our situation. If anything happens to me, you, or even your parents, everyone will be upset."

"We will not be happy, we will only be tired and have more misunderstandings. It is strange that this kind of marriage can maintain a good relationship. Even if there is some good things at the beginning, it will be destroyed in the end."

"Actually, although the words 'well-matched' are a bit feudal, it is the experience summed up by the predecessors. 'Marry a woman from a low-class family, marry a daughter from a high-class family'. There is a certain truth to it. When we are together, it is a tragedy for both parties.
To be continued...